Sex with Emily ★★
The sex-centered, sex-positive podcast genre has a lot of room to grow. There aren’t a lot of players in it and I think there’s a lot to talk about. On Sex With Emily, Emily Morse, a “sexpert” who has spent quite a bit of time on TV and radio, answers listener questions about anything related to sex.
On the positive side, I like that Emily is direct, does not tiptoe around tough questions, and is very open. She is not judgmental in the least. She genuinely tries to help people who write in and engages well with her guests, who occasionally help provide advice.
Where I struggle most is the haphazard, pinball-ish, and know-it-all way Emily speaks to her audience. Sometimes the guests exacerbate this issue when it becomes a know-it-all conversation between two people talking at the audience. Occasionally it seems the guests are not vetted at all for how they can complement Emily as a host. It was gimmicky to bring on two former contestants on ABC’s Bachelor in Paradise to talk about their sex lives. They didn’t really add anything to the show or help anyone solve sex problems, they were just there to try like hell to extend their 15 minutes of fame.
I also can’t stand the constant plugging of Emily’s own products. It is woven into conversations AND gets “ad” time. She speaks very quickly and has a gregarious personality, and somehow this makes the product shilling even more abhorrent and pushy. It borders on feeling like a branded podcast sometimes.
The show is rarely inspiring; I can’t really remember anything that has changed my mindset or made me try something new, other than that lube is not shameful. I’d rather learn about sex from a variety of people, not just one person (Sex With Strangers, where the focus is not on the host at all but on the guest), or one host who actually has good, diverse advice (Savage Lovecast) whose advice never feels like the same old conversation over and over. Better yet, give me an actual story as the vehicle to learn about the feelings related to sex, not just the pure mechanics and what goes where (The Heart). But – maybe Sex With Emily is more geared toward men than women.
Is there really a lot of mystery about the mechanics of having sex? No. Where people often struggle is how to talk to each other about sex, how to meet your partner’s needs, how to ask for what you want, how to communicate about wanting to try something new. The episodes I’ve listened to where these topics are discussed have no softness in the answers – she is definitely not a therapist I’d go to. It’s a lot of pushy “just tell him what you want, girl!” and not a lot of thought about how to even be comfortable with asking or why you’d want to try something different with a partner.
As with some other podcasts in the genre, I’m just left feeling like each episode never climaxes. Episode titles draw me in and make me think, “This is going to be the one that makes me love this show. More foreplay? Of course I want that!” But I get disappointed often. If I were a dating woman, it would be as if I put too much faith in the near-perfect Tinder profile and then get let down in the bedroom because of false advertising. Sure, it’s an okay show, it’s obviously been around for several years, but I just never feel satisfied. And who wants that?
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Audible Feast Ratings
Educational Value (4 / 5)
Pop Culture Value (4 / 5)
Host Listen-ability (2 / 5)
Flow & Production Value (2 / 5)
Humor (3 / 5)
Investigation (1 / 5)
Storytelling (1 / 5)
Makes Me a Better Person (2 / 5)
Overall Audible Feast Rating: (2 / 5)
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